Ken Blanchard says that feedback is the breakfast of champions. Have you ever considered that this includes feedback to yourself in the form of self-reflection? I recently finished reading Meditations by the great Marcus Aurelius, which consists of his personal reflections to try and understand himself and the world around him. I would like to share with you what I have learned.

1. Journalling is key

Sometimes putting the proverbial pen to paper is the best way to approach the puzzling questions in life. This certainly rings true when we ponder important concepts, phenomenon, or life lessons. Marcus continually attempted to pen down his thoughts, lessons, and beliefs. By attempting to practice reflection by translating your thoughts to paper you help yourself work through them, and you gain a deeper understanding thereof.

2.  Don’t be afraid to write about life’s difficulties

When we reflect, we shouldn’t only focus on the positive, light side of life. In fact, Marcus showed that you can benefit greatly when you are willing to explore the difficult side of life. Marcus was willing to struggle with a few key themes throughout his journey and was not afraid to address his personal issues, doubts, and fears. Is it not in life’s difficulties where the most personal growth can be found?

3. Ponder, don’t gossip

Focus on understanding your own bigger picture, internal dialogue, and difficulties. Don’t spend your journalling energy on other people, their choices, or their behaviour. This might seem like a strange point to make but bear with me. People are often caught up in other people’s lives, forgetting to live their own. Remember the following: Focus on who (or what) you can change. And that is yourself. Focus on your personal journey, do not use it as a place to lambaste others.

Thanks for your time,

Francis

PS: In another article, I unpack the importance of appreciation and recognition during reflection.